{"id":1886,"date":"2018-10-04T08:28:49","date_gmt":"2018-10-04T05:28:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/?p=1886"},"modified":"2018-10-06T09:42:20","modified_gmt":"2018-10-06T06:42:20","slug":"a-reflection-on-civil-marriage-by-dr-laurence-ajaka","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/a-reflection-on-civil-marriage-by-dr-laurence-ajaka\/","title":{"rendered":"A Reflection on Civil Marriage! By Dr. Laurence Ajaka | Read it in French"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"#french\"><em>read it in french<\/em><\/a><br \/>\nCivil marriage is an issue that is constantly revived and dug up to be rehashed in the same inconsistent manner whenever there is a lull in the newsfeed. It is one of the buttons that are pushed whenever a political deadlock is reigning in our country. Many have tried to exploit it in the name of freedom and advancement, but it remains an affront to our identity.<\/p>\n<p>The situation is not as black and white as most people seem to be claiming. The way the media covers these stories would leave you convinced that people from different religions have never been married in Lebanon. This is a falsehood as there are numerous marriages where Christians and Muslims got married by a clergy from either religion. They live in harmony under the blessing of religion. One of them has to be willing to convert on official documents, but that does not mean that they have to change their convictions in real life. Over the decades since its conception, Lebanon has nurtured individuals from different religious backgrounds with minimal backlash.<\/p>\n<div class=\"e3lan e3lan-in-post1\"><p><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- Responsive below details pages -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-5312900198931270\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7850515581\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"auto\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Some would argue that a civil marriage will solve issues of mixed marriages, but that is a falsehood because Lebanon does not have civil laws. Most people think that civil marriage is the key, but the children from such unions end up suffering. Some judges are forced to withhold registering the birth of children from civil unions because they do not have the adequate legal frame to do so. These children also cannot have a religion written on their ID, and therefore they will struggle to find jobs within the government that distributes positions according to sects. In essence, these well-intentioned are depriving their offspring of lifelong security.<\/p>\n<p>Women also suffer when it comes to civil marriage. Whenever these couples get married, they have to use the law of the country where they forged your union. Every marriage is vulnerable, and even civil unions will possibly unravel. When that happens, the judge presiding over the case has to use the laws in the country of union. This might sound simple, but judges spend years and years trying to fathom the complexity of one legal system, so they will not be able to understand the nuisances of a new system in a matter of weeks and even months. Ignorance in matters of justice will often lead to injustice, and women tend to be more vulnerable than men in almost every legal system. Issues such as alimony and child support could easily be muddled. Trying to impose them would also confuse law enforcement agencies that are not familiar with the ramifications and procedures to follow.<\/p>\n<div class=\"e3lan e3lan-in-post1\"><p><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- Responsive below details pages -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-5312900198931270\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7850515581\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"auto\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Let us be realistic. All the weddings on beaches and social media stunts will not solve the issue. Being hasty and breaking all the norms of society will not endear the cause for the older and more conservative generation. Having a civil marriage to spite society will reflect negatively on those who make this choice as well as their children. Take the hard road to get the consent and cooperation of the whole society to ensure there is a complete and comprehensive civil law to preserve the integrity of everyone involved.<\/p>\n<p id=\"french\"><div class=\"box note  alignleft\"><div class=\"box-inner-block\"><i class=\"fa tie-shortcode-boxicon\"><\/i>\n\t\t\tAt the request of our dear readers, a quick french translation has been put in place. Enjoy!\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/div>\n<h2>Une R\u00e9flexion sur le Mariage Civil! Par Dr. Laurence Ajaka<\/h2>\n<p>Le mariage civil est une question qui est constamment relanc\u00e9e et d\u00e9terr\u00e9e pour \u00eatre ressass\u00e9e de la m\u00eame mani\u00e8re incoh\u00e9rente chaque fois qu\u2019il ya une accalmie dans le flux de nouvelles. C\u2019est l\u2019un des boutons qui sont pouss\u00e9s chaque fois qu\u2019un blocage politique r\u00e8gne dans notre pays. Beaucoup ont essay\u00e9 de l\u2019exploiter au nom de la libert\u00e9 et de l\u2019avancement, mais cela reste un affront \u00e0 notre identit\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>La situation n\u2019est pas aussi noire et blanche que la plupart des gens semblent revendiquer. La fa\u00e7on dont les m\u00e9dias couvrent ces histoires vous laisserait convaincu que les gens de diff\u00e9rentes religions n\u2019ont jamais \u00e9t\u00e9 mari\u00e9s au Liban. C\u2019est un mensonge, car il y a de nombreux mariages o\u00f9 les chr\u00e9tiens et les musulmans se sont mari\u00e9s par un clerg\u00e9 d\u2019une religion ou de l\u2019autre. Ils vivent en harmonie sous la b\u00e9n\u00e9diction de la religion. L\u2019un d\u2019eux doit \u00eatre dispos\u00e9 \u00e0 se convertir sur des documents officiels, mais cela ne signifie pas qu\u2019ils doivent changer leurs convictions dans la vie r\u00e9elle. Au fil des d\u00e9cennies depuis sa conception, le Liban a nourri des individus de diff\u00e9rents milieux religieux avec un jeu minime.<\/p>\n<div class=\"e3lan e3lan-in-post1\"><p><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- Responsive below details pages -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-5312900198931270\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7850515581\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"auto\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Certains diront qu\u2019un mariage civil va r\u00e9soudre des probl\u00e8mes de mariages mixtes, mais c\u2019est un mensonge parce que le Liban n\u2019a pas de lois civiles. La plupart des gens pensent que le mariage civil est la cl\u00e9, mais les enfants de ces syndicats finissent par souffrir. Certains juges sont oblig\u00e9s de refuser l\u2019enregistrement de la naissance d\u2019enfants issus d\u2019unions civiles parce qu\u2019ils n\u2019ont pas le cadre juridique ad\u00e9quat pour le faire. Ces enfants ne peuvent pas non plus avoir une religion \u00e9crite sur leur identit\u00e9, et donc ils vont lutter pour trouver des emplois au sein du gouvernement qui distribue des positions selon les sectes. En substance, ces bien intentionn\u00e9s privent leurs descendants de la s\u00e9curit\u00e9 \u00e0 vie.<\/p>\n<p>Les femmes souffrent aussi quand il s\u2019agit de mariage civil. Chaque fois que ces couples se marient, ils doivent utiliser la loi du pays o\u00f9 ils ont forg\u00e9 votre Union. Chaque mariage est vuln\u00e9rable, et m\u00eame les unions civiles se d\u00e9noueront. Lorsque cela se produit, le juge pr\u00e9sidant l\u2019affaire doit utiliser les lois dans le pays d\u2019union. Cela peut sembler simple, mais les juges passent des ann\u00e9es et des ann\u00e9es \u00e0 essayer de comprendre la complexit\u00e9 d\u2019un syst\u00e8me juridique, de sorte qu\u2019ils ne seront pas en mesure d\u2019appr\u00e9hender les nuisances d\u2019un nouveau syst\u00e8me en quelques semaines et m\u00eame mois. L\u2019Ignorance en mati\u00e8re de justice conduira souvent \u00e0 l\u2019injustice, et les femmes ont tendance \u00e0 \u00eatre plus vuln\u00e9rables que les hommes dans presque tous les syst\u00e8mes juridiques. Des questions telles que la pension alimentaire et les pensions alimentaires pour enfants pourraient facilement \u00eatre brouill\u00e9es. Essayer de les imposer confondrait \u00e9galement les organismes d\u2019application de la loi qui ne connaissent pas les ramifications et les proc\u00e9dures \u00e0 suivre.<\/p>\n<div class=\"e3lan e3lan-in-post1\"><p><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- Responsive below details pages -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-5312900198931270\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7850515581\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"auto\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Soyons r\u00e9alistes. Tous les mariages sur les plages et les cascades des m\u00e9dias sociaux ne r\u00e9soudront pas le probl\u00e8me. La pr\u00e9cipitation et la rupture de toutes les normes de la soci\u00e9t\u00e9 ne sera pas aimer pas la cause de la g\u00e9n\u00e9ration plus \u00e2g\u00e9e et plus conservatrice. Avoir un mariage civil en d\u00e9pit de la soci\u00e9t\u00e9 va refl\u00e9ter n\u00e9gativement ceux qui font ce choix ainsi que leurs enfants. Prenez le chemin dur pour obtenir le consentement et la coop\u00e9ration de toute la soci\u00e9t\u00e9 pour s\u2019assurer qu\u2019il existe un droit civil complet et compr\u00e9hensif pour pr\u00e9server l\u2019int\u00e9grit\u00e9 de toutes les personnes impliqu\u00e9es.<\/p>\n<div class=\"e3lan e3lan-in-post1\"><p><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- Responsive below details pages -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-5312900198931270\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7850515581\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"auto\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>read it in french Civil marriage is an issue that is constantly revived and dug up to be rehashed in the same inconsistent manner whenever there is a lull in the newsfeed. It is one of the buttons that are pushed whenever a political deadlock is reigning in our country. Many have tried to exploit &hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1888,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[97],"tags":[209],"class_list":["post-1886","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","","category-social","tag-civil-marriage"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1886","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1886"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1886\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1888"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1886"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1886"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/abyadaswad.com\/_en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1886"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}